Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Abortion/ Bringing clean water to people

On Monday 10-18-10 I had a woman on my talk radio show whose birth mother became pregnant at 13. The baby was aborted and one month later she found out she was still pregnant. It was a twin & too late to abort. Hear her amazing story.

Also I had the 'Water Man' on. He raises money to bring clean water to people all around the world!Truly inspising story ~ especially when you hear that 6,000 children die every day in terrible pain from drinking contaminated water

Thursday, October 14, 2010

Why do we Keep Secrets??

Do you ever think about the secret's we keep and why we keep them? I just finished the book, 'Sarah's Key' and the pain that went with keeping her secret and trying to bury the past. There is no closure. It made me think of all the children that had not been told they were adopted and all the birth mothers (and I'm one of them) that held the "shame" of bearing and relinquishing a child. And for what??

What are your secrets and why do you keep them? Do you have some type of outlet for them or do you push them down deep where they can't escape and no one can see? Would we share more with each other if we weren't so critical and judgmental? Why do we only bring our skeletons out at Halloween?! And they don't talk.........

Remember the catch phrase; "Don't air your dirty laundry?" Well, don't let the 'dirty laundry' fester and grow like a bacteria within you. Find a safe place to let it out and start the healing process.

I don't tell my girls, "Don't tell" ~ maybe because I grew up living that. Being honest about who we are; the good, the bad and the ugly (hmmm, sounds like a movie) helps us process life in general. Good lesson for our kids ~ for us.

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Adoption and Murder

There is so much talk about the importance of letting your child know their heritage and explore their backgrounds and biological families. My guest on my talk radio show, Dr. Kirschner who is a forensic psychologist and psychoanalyst talked about murder and adoption. While the cases are extremely rare, there are people that can't cope without knowing and the rage inside of them is like a disease.
When we walk in someone else's shoes, we begin to understand their pain. Not all of us react in the same way but there is a knowing there.
Even with the tremendous pain of relinquishing my child for adoption, it has allowed me to see all sides of the adoption triad and I am grateful for this.
Open adoption and letting our kids explore who they are doesn't take away from us as adoptive parents ~ it justs adds to our role and who we are.